Kristin Cavallari Draws a Line at Hollywood as She Redefines What Love Means to Her

11 November 2025

Kristin Cavallari insisted she'd never date an actor during an episode of her podcast, "Let's Be Honest." (Jose Perez/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)

In a frank and unfiltered episode of her “Let’s Be Honest” podcast, reality-TV alum Kristin Cavallari laid bare the reasons she refuses to date men from Hollywood’s acting ranks. At age 38, and with three children of her own, she’s decided that actors are simply not part of her romantic future and she didn’t hold back in explaining why.

While admitting she finds actor Brandon Sklenar attractive, Cavallari noted that his profession disqualifies him in her view. “He’s so hot” she said. “but he’s in a relationship, and he’s an actor, and I would never date an actor.” Her reasons spanned from the logistical to the deeply personal. She pointed to the exhausting schedules and heavy travel demands that accompany the profession, problems she is not willing to tolerate in her next partner. “Logistics-wise, the scheduling would be a nightmare, and he wouldn’t be able to travel to me all the time,” she explained.

Digging deeper, Cavallari argued that many actors she’s encountered seem to base their lives on insecurity and external validation traits she finds unattractive and incompatible with the kind of partner she seeks. “Typically, actors are very insecure and I think that’s why they become actors,” she said. “And I think a lot of them can be just really cheesy… a bunch of nerds.” She went so far as to call it a pattern: the drive for applause, the constant reinvention, the need to be seen. None of it fits with her idea of real-world romance.

Rather than being swept up in the glamour of Hollywood, Cavallari professes to be seeking something far more grounded. She shared that her ideal match is a “normal guy,” ideally someone who already has kids and understands the rhythms of real life, not the artificial rhythms of a film set. She even quipped that she is “manifesting” a non-famous version of either Sklenar or actor Charlie Hunnam, underscoring the distinction she draws between the man she wants and the celebrity she admires.

Reflecting on her past, Cavallari acknowledged previous relationships with actors, but she suggests those experiences informed this shift in perspective. Whether it was the long hours, the scripted personas, or the superficial energy she sensed around her, the takeaway for her was clear: when you live in the spotlight, the man behind the camera often gets lost. She, however, refuses to lose herself.

Her lens on relationships has been sharpened by years of living in public view. As mother of sons Camden and Jaxon, and daughter Saylor, she has worn the hats of reality star, entrepreneur, podcast host and parent and in each role she has made it clear that she does not need a man to define her worth. That attitude now feeds her romantic expectations. She has made it known that she won’t settle, that she wants someone who fits with her life’s priorities rather than distracts from them.

Cavallari’s decision to bypass actors is about more than scheduling or career envy. It is a rejection of the kind of emotional baggage she associates with their world: the constant performance, the shifting identities, the validation-seeking behaviour. For her, a relationship is not a stage, it is a partnership. She wants someone who is present and grounded, who doesn’t confuse their work for their identity, and who isn’t waiting backstage for applause.

In this candid moment, Cavallari is reminding her audience that fame and attraction do not always equal compatibility. She is choosing slower rhythms over limelight, consistency over casting, authenticity over spotlight. As some followers admire from a distance actors and celebrities included Cavallari is carving a different path in the landscape of romance. One where the guy who travels less and listens more might just outrank the one who lands the leading role.